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Girls’ toddler Cookie Monster costume vs. Boys’ toddler Cookie Monster costume. We’re not joking when we say gender expectations and sexualization start early.
hello why even does the one on the left exist, how ridiculous. the one on the right actually makes sense.
I really, REALLY wish you could read this article about a father who started wearing skirts because his son likes to wear skirts and dresses and he wants his son to feel stronger
Like, holy shit, the end made me feel so happyI took the liberty to translate the text.
Please note that it’s not a word to word translation.
Sometimes men simply have to be role models.
Because his son likes to wear skirts Nils Pickert started with it as well. After all, the little one needs a role model. And he thinks long skirts with elastic bands suit him quite well anyways. A story about two misfits in the Province of southern Germany.
My five year old son likes to wear dresses. In Berlin Kreuzberg that alone would be enough to get into conversation with other parents. Is it wise or ridiculous? „Neither one nor the other!“ I still want to shout back at them. But sadly they can’t hear me any more. Because by now I live in a small town in South Germany. Not even a hundred thousand inhabitants, very traditional, very religious. Plainly motherland. Here the partiality of my son are not only a subject for parents, they are a town wide issue. And I did my bit for that to happen.
Yes, I’m one of those dads, that try to raise their children equal. I’m not one of those academic daddies that ramble about gender equality during their studies and then, as soon as a child’s in the house, still relapse into those fluffy gender roles: He’s finding fulfilment in his carrier and she’s doing the rest.
Thus I am, I know that by now, part of the minority that makes a fool of themselves from time to time. Out of conviction.
In my case that’s because I didn’t want to talk my son into not wearing dresses and skirts. He didn’t make friends in doing that in Berlin already and after a lot of contemplation I had only one option left: To broaden my shoulders for my little buddy and dress in a skirt myself. After all you can’t expect a child at pre-school age to have the same ability to assert themselves as an adult. Completely without role model. And so I became that role model.
We already had skirt and dress days back then during mild Kreuzbergian weather. And I think long skirts with elastic bands suit me quite well anyways. Dresses are a bit more difficult. There was either no reaction of the people in Berlin or it was positive. In my small town in the south of Germany that’s a little bit different.
Being all stressed out, because of the moving I forgot to notify the nursery-school teachers to have an eye on my boy not being laughed at because of his fondness of dresses and skirts. Shortly after moving he didn’t dare to go to nursery-school wearing a skirt or a dress any more. And looking at me with big eyes he asked: “Daddy, when are you going to wear a skirt again?”
To this very day I’m thankful for that women, that stared at us on the street until she ran face first into a street light. My son was roaring with laugher. And the next day he fished out a dress from the depth of his wardrobe. At first only for the weekend. Later also for nursery-school.
And what’s the little guy doing by now? He’s painting his fingernails. He thinks it looks pretty on my nails, too. He’s simply smiling, when other boys ( and it’s nearly always boys) want to make fun of him and says: “You only don’t dare to wear skirts and dresses because your dads don’t dare to either.” That’s how broad his own shoulders have become by now. And all thanks to daddy in a skirt.
I hope it’s alright like this.
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“Oliver in a tutu” by Catherine Opie
This has been on my wall at home for four years. Love it.
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Controversial Pool Policy of the Day: Breast cancer survivor Jodi Jaecks underwent a bilateral mastectomy in 2011. She opted not to have reconstructive surgery, and the procedure left her with two thin scars that cut across her chest where her nipples once lay.
Jaecks now suffers from a common side effect of mastectomies – nerve pain across her chest and neck:
It burns all the time — a pretty searing, intense pain.
As such, she has no interest in wearing post-mastectomy swimsuits, and besides, she really has nothing left to cover up. So she petitioned Seattle Parks and Recreation to allow her to swim topless in the district’s 10 public pools. (Video in link Sorta Not Safe For Work — Jaecks is pictured topless.)
But the district pushed back, telling Jaecks she wouldn’t be welcome unless she wore “gender-appropriate swimwear.”
“She made it clear she wanted to show her scars as a ‘badge of courage’ and wanted to use the pool to spread her message,” says parks spokeswoman Dewey Potter.
After the story broke Tuesday, Seattle Parks and Rec caved to public pressure and overturned the policy — but for Jaecks only.
Naturally, the meager concession prompted further backlash, and now it looks like Jaecks may win the battle and the war. The district has announced it will considerreversing its policy for everyone.
[theslog]
How about making it so anyone can wear what they want to the pool as long as it’s not-harmful and swim appropriate?](http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m6139yOtsk1qzpwi0o1_500.jpg)
Controversial Pool Policy of the Day: Breast cancer survivor Jodi Jaecks underwent a bilateral mastectomy in 2011. She opted not to have reconstructive surgery, and the procedure left her with two thin scars that cut across her chest where her nipples once lay.
Jaecks now suffers from a common side effect of mastectomies – nerve pain across her chest and neck:
It burns all the time — a pretty searing, intense pain.
As such, she has no interest in wearing post-mastectomy swimsuits, and besides, she really has nothing left to cover up. So she petitioned Seattle Parks and Recreation to allow her to swim topless in the district’s 10 public pools. (Video in link Sorta Not Safe For Work — Jaecks is pictured topless.)
But the district pushed back, telling Jaecks she wouldn’t be welcome unless she wore “gender-appropriate swimwear.”
“She made it clear she wanted to show her scars as a ‘badge of courage’ and wanted to use the pool to spread her message,” says parks spokeswoman Dewey Potter.
After the story broke Tuesday, Seattle Parks and Rec caved to public pressure and overturned the policy — but for Jaecks only.
Naturally, the meager concession prompted further backlash, and now it looks like Jaecks may win the battle and the war. The district has announced it will considerreversing its policy for everyone.
[theslog]
How about making it so anyone can wear what they want to the pool as long as it’s not-harmful and swim appropriate?
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This.
SRSLY
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh nope nope nope. I seriously disagree with this post. What the hell does “bisexual” mean then? This is a philosophical argument based on the root of words in English (which is super fucked up and a mishmash of words from all over the place). If you, OP, are going to make this argument, then why not question every English word that no longer has exactly the meaning it originally had in some other language?
NOT that I think “bi”sexual DOESN’T refer to “having sexual attraction to two types of people” — usually those two types of people are men and women (which IS binarist) BUT I’ve heard some people say “well, bisexuality, to me, means that I am attracted to two types of people and those two types aren’t necessarily FAAB/DFAB women and MAAB/DMAB men”.
My understanding is that the term lesbian as (usually) woman-loving-women comes from Sappho, who wrote about loving other women, who was a Lesbian (as in from the island of Lesbos) herself.
If you are going to argue that meanings change over time then I don’t understand why you don’t mention that new identities and labels have been created or have become more popular to more accurately describe people who like more than one type of person (polysexual, pansexual, queer). I know that older generations of people usually identified, sexuality-wise, as straight or gay or lesbian or bisexual (and my understanding of why that is is because thinking about the gender binary wasn’t as popular or relevant or important).
Granted, this is worded so that I, as a genderqueer person arguing against this argument saying bisexual is binarist, will just come off as an angry, biphobic, genderqueer person who doesn’t think about ALL word meanings, just the ones convenient to me. This sounds very reactionary (of course) and defensive (of course, I totally understand why) but I think people who identify as bisexual are having to reconsider what that means (as opposed to an identity such as polysexual or pansexual) or at least that bisexual and its original meaning (attracted to two types of people) is being thought of as outdated and binarist (as are lots of terms) because of the importance of the gender binary.
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So rad. (Taken with instagram)
YES YES YES YES YES
YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES PLEASE
WAIT I never noticed at the bottom it says to visit the LGBT Center of Raleigh! This is in NC! Also, we have a gender neutral bathroom at Unity Conference and it is only for a weekend but it is still awesome!
Clothes have no gender.
I’d disagree with the “clothes have no gender” statement above for reasons that I’ve written about before (in short, why would these photos have any sort of meaning besides “oh cool, people switching their outfits!” if [[clothes didn’t have a gender]] clothes weren’t used to police gender / express gender / highlight gender, etc?). If I find my post, I’ll link it here.
**EDIT: I suppose I should rephrase because I, of course, don’t know what someone was meaning when they said “clothes have no gender” because pieces of fabric don’t really have a gender, that is true, but I think saying that takes away from all the cultural and situational significance put on outfits and clothes.
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